I am a proud feminist and I’m completely self-sufficient, but when it comes to dudes, I still expect a certain amount of chivalry. I want to be adored and doted upon, and I love when a guy behaves like a true gentleman—what’s wrong with that? Here are 12 old-fashioned gestures I’d still like a guy to make if he wants to date me.
1. PAY FOR MY MEAL.
Yeah, I can totally pay for myself and I definitely will in future, but at the beginning, I see no reason why a guy can’t pony up for dinner once or twice. I’d more than appreciate a guy who offers—or better yet, one who insists.
2. HOLD THE DOOR OPEN.
I hold doors open for people all the time, male and female. It’s just polite. And yes, I can open the door for myself at a restaurant or coffee shop, but I like it when the guy I’m dating does it. There’s just some kind of charm in that action that gets me. He’s just trying to make things easier for me and I think that’s sweet and considerate as hell.
3. OFFER ME HIS ARM.
I find this gesture unbearably adorable. I can clear the gap getting off a train or walk down some steep steps in my heels just fine—I’m a very balanced person—but how cute when he offers to take your arm and help? It’s straight out of a 1950s movie, which may not appeal to some people but it does to me.