You’ve probably heard that if you want to find real love, you’re going to have to wait a while. You might want to scream and pull out your hair when someone tells you this, but this is why you have to be patient when you’re looking for love no matter how much it sucks:
1. IT TAKES A LONG TIME.
Even when you have a first date on your calendar, you might have to wait a few days or even a week before meeting the person. And even if you hit it off, you might not hear from him for a few days before you set up a second date, and that might not happen until a week later. Then it’s going to take a while before you two are comfortable together and can even think about discussing “what you are.” And that’s only if things work out well. If you keep going on crappy first dates, then finding love is obviously going to take a whole lot longer.
2. YOU CAN’T CONTROL EVERYTHING.
Sure, you can pick the location for the first date, and you can set boundaries to protect yourself. But the pacing of your love life is something that’s a bit harder to control. Whether it’s seeing if the new guy in your life feels the same way you do, or setting up a date with someone that you’re interested in meeting IRL, you’re going to have to do some waiting whether you like it or not.
3. YOU’RE GOING TO HAVE SETBACKS.
Just because you’ve finally met a guy that you like doesn’t mean that you’re going to end up together. You might not even get past the first month. While this definitely sucks, you have to realize that dating is full of setbacks, and worrying about time frames isn’t going to help you.