Every woman has someone who will always be That Boyfriend: the one you compare everyone to and miss even when you try your best not to. For me, that guy was my first love, and while it took a while, I can finally say that he’s no longer in my mind, thoughts or heart. Here’s how I moved on:
1. I FORGOT ABOUT DATING.
Okay, I liked some guys here and there, but when nothing happened, I didn’t care. I wanted to be single while I got over my ex. Sometimes, focusing on anything but love and dating can be a really good idea. Once I knew I was fully over him, I was totally fine jumping back in.
2. I CUT HIM OUT OF MY LIFE.
I’m not into being friends with ex-boyfriends, especially not someone who caused more hurt and heartbreak than anything else at the end. My ex has creeped up over the years by trying to friend me on Facebook and sending me messages. At first, I answered and made it super clear I wasn’t interested in chatting. And then I ignored him altogether, and things became a lot easier.
3. I LEARNED SOME HARD TRUTHS.
It really sucked to realize that loving someone doesn’t mean it’s going to work out. It sucked even more to realize that the only guy I ever loved needed to be on a path that had nothing to do with me. Figuring that out made it easy to take a deep breath and move on.