Some of us blame ourselves way too much. Whether it’s our job, or relationship, it’s like our mind falls into the trap of thinking it’s always our fault. It’s becomes a limiting habit that’s difficult to stop.
But you don’t have to be a spiritual guru to realize that self-blame is pretty useless and harmful.
Regardless of whether you were right or wrong, it doesn’t really serve a purpose.
The main problem with it is that we’re reacting instead of taking action. It leaves us mentally stuck, blocking ourselves from seeing the bigger picture. It essentially stops us from living a peaceful life.
However, one philosophy that can help us to stop constantly self-blaming is Buddhism. Buddhism provides two essential truths that are difficult to perceive in the midst of self-blaming.
1) Truth 1: Change is the only constant in the universe.
Buddhists believe that change is the cycle of life. Everything goes through change. The weather changes from day to day, you are born and eventually you’ll pass away, and you’re physical body changes moment to moment. Change exists everywhere. It’s impossible to deny.
When we blame ourselves for something, it’s useful to realize that change is inevitable. We all make mistakes, but that doesn’t mean those mistakes define us. They aren’t us and by having that experience, we’ve already changed. There’s no need to blame. Only to learn.