Rooted in traditional Toltec wisdom beliefs, these four principles/agreements are essential steps on the path to a better life.
1) Be Impeccable with your Word
“Impeccability means ‘without sin.’ Impeccable comes from the Latin pecatus, which means ‘sin.’ The im in impeccable means ‘without,’ so impeccable means ‘without sin.’ Religions talk about sin and sinners, but let’s understand what it really means to sin. A sin is anything that you do which goes against yourself. Everything you feel or believe or say that goes against yourself is a sin. You go against yourself when you judge or blame yourself for anything. Being without sin is exactly the opposite. Being impeccable is not going against yourself. When you are impeccable, you take responsibility for your actions, but you do not judge or blame yourself.”
This is the most important principle and perhaps the most difficult one to honor. To be impeccable with your word means you do not use your word against yourself with guilt or shame. It also means you don’t use your word against others in blaming, criticizing or gossiping. You need to honor your commitments and only make commitments you intend to follow through on.
2) Don’t Take Anything Personally
“Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.
What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. Imagine 2 scenarios where you’re walking into a gas station and you accidentally bump into the person who’s walking out:
Scenario 1: The person had a great night of sleep, woke up and went to work and found out they were getting a raise. Then on their lunch break, ate a meal that was amazing, and on they way back to work, they stopped at the gas station to buy a scratch and win lotto ticket and they won $5000. As this person is walking out of the gas station, you happen to accidentally bump into them. How do you think this person will react? How will you be treated?
Scenario 2: The same person was up all night tending to a sick child. Then woke up late and in the rush to make in to work, was involved in a minor car accident. Upon arriving to work, gets a written notice for being late. On their lunch break, found a hair in their meal and then on the way back to work, stopped at the gas station to buy some aspirin to help alleviate their killer headache. As this person is walking out of the gas station, you accidentally bump into them. How will this person react? How will this person treat you?
The most important thing to understand is that YOU are the exact same person in both scenarios. When you base your opinion of yourself on how others treat you, you’re in trouble! When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
“There is one recurring, persistent, perennial, and dogging personal problem which, more than any other, steals the force and peace of people and ruins projects and enterprises and careers. It is the habit of feeling hurt because of what others do or do not do and what they say or do not say.