12 Ways I Gave My Power To Men Without Even Realizing It—I’ll Never Do That Again

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It’s funny how I used to think I was strong and had loads of self-love, only to realize that I was acting weak AF around men. Thankfully, by noticing what I was doing, I could stop these 12 dodgy behaviors in their tracks.

1. BEING ON CALL 24-7

I was pretty much like a doctor on call for the guy I was interested in. If he called in the early hours, I’d have a conversation with him even though I was tired AF. If he was in the neighborhood and wanted to see me at the drop of a hat, I’d say, “Come by in 10 minutes.” I was too available and it meant that men could rule my life and schedule.

2. TRYING TO IMPRESS THEM TO DEATH

I know everyone tries to be liked when dating but I took that too far. When a guy wanted to go bungee-jumping or camping, I’d act excited even though I was dreading the experience. The result was that I tried so hard to be the girl they wanted, I totally forgot about being the person I wanted to be and had some pretty lousy experiences. It wasn’t worth it.

3. TREATING THEM LIKE GOLD EVEN WHEN I DIDN’T GET THE SAME IN RETURN

I’d be so crazy about the guy that I’d compliment him all the time, sing his praises, and support him no matter what. That’s great, but there’s a catch. By doing too much of that, I totally ignored the signs when they weren’t treating me like gold but tinfoil instead. I was the nice girl they could walk all over. I gave too much and accepted too little. What crap!

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